Last week my hairdresser gave me a big hug and told me I was one of the two people who had changed his life.
Ok, I’ll admit I simpered a little with delight. Because I love to help people. That’s how I get my good feelings.
D.’s been doing my hair for years now. He’s the best hairdresser I’ve ever had. Apparently, I’m one of his best clients. Now, I’m not a big spender on hair (unlike one woman I know who freely admits to having spent some £200,000 [sic] on her one daughter’s hair and her own). But D. and I have great conversations; ‘Money Gym conversations’, I call them.
‘Money Gym conversations’ are those conversations when you share a little of the information you have gleaned, with someone you know. Maybe you’ve done it yourself. You say something and suddenly you hear a few little crashes, as scales fall from the other person’s eyes.
D. and I had conversations like that about property as I sat with a head full of silver foil, and he became a confident property investor. One time he talked about making an ‘aesthetic improvement’ he fancied to his home. He had been well and truly ‘sold’ something he did not need, something that would never, ever, add value to the property. (It gave me chest pain!) We talked about it for 20 minutes, while he did my highlights. In the end he decided that the £20,000 was better in his pocket.
What did he do with the money? There were a couple of trips to the Far East. Also he reduced his workload so he can spend 1 day a week working on his business development. He wants to do fashion shoots – he’s certainly good enough – and he can afford to do unpaid work 1 day a week, while he gets his face and his talents known.
The latest thing is he has expressed an interest in the RED scheme. He hadn’t given his pension any thought, so it would kill a couple of birds with one stone for him.
That’s one of the great things about the Money Gym. You learn a whole different outlook on money. It’s another way, often a very powerful way, to add value to other people’s lives. Even better, when you can do it with some simple information.
It kind of blows that hoary old anxiety: “But-if-I-make-money-people-mightn’t-like-me” right out of the water. Doesn’t it?
It’s always possible if – or, more correctly, when- you make money that there will be some people out there who will take it personally. They will feel aggrieved, but you already know that. These people operate from an unconscious scarcity mind-set. In their world-view there is a pot, and it has only a certain sum of money in it. Somehow, the amount you should have, has been pre-ordained. (These people are the duly (self-)appointed arbiters of how much that is.) When you take more, you are, therefore, in their humble opinion, depriving others of their meagre pittance.
Now, my wonderful hairdresser is the first person in his family to own even one home, but that sort of consideration has never bothered him. He got the point of property investment, and growing his wealth, quite quickly. (There were a couple of occasions when his nerve wobbled a little, and I quaked in my boots, because badly hacked hair I do not need. So while he mixed up the tint and marinated my head, I took charge of the situation, we did a bit of positive belief work and by the time the tint was ready for washing off, he was safe to cut my hair. PHEW!)
But then, D. had already resolved that old ‘…but they may not like me’ baggage. It was one of the things that endeared him from the start. The first time I met him, he walked into my kitchen carrying a bag that bore the sign: “I can only please one person a day. Today is not your day, and tomorrow is not looking good either…”
Supposing you can only please one person today, and tomorrow, and the day after, and – you get my drift – with your wealth creation efforts, who will you focus on?