I’ve got abandonment issues ’cause my mum and dad just disappeared for two years when I was young so basically I’m always aware of feeling like I’m about to be abandoned. So when people do things like resign, I feel abandoned.

I can’t help myself, it’s a childhood thing but being aware of it helps me to deal with it. It makes me aware that I’m not actually reacting to how that person is behaving by resigning, I’m reacting to something, a childhood wound, they call it, I don’t like the word myself but it helps if you’re self-aware about all the ways that you can react to other people when they’re just getting on with their lives and doing the things that they need to do indeed to be happy themselves.

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